Meet Your Person. Guaranteed.
In eight years and hundreds of clients, I've never had a woman do this work and stay stuck. You won't be the first.
I see you. You have your life together. The career, the friends, the full diary, the holidays. From the outside, everything looks exactly as it should
But here’s something I understand about you that not many other people will know.
- The pain you carry deep within you that you’ve not met the person you wanted to share your life with.
- The heartbreak over relationships that could never give you the love that you deserved no matter how much you put into those relationships
- The utter frustration of dating apps that usually offer only people that can only commit to one night stands rather than something wholesome and real.
- The shame of being blindsighted by partners that promised the world and yet they let you down in every way possible. You even trusted them when they begged you to stay and that things would get better but they betrayed you beyond repair and left you depleted, a cynical mind and a broken heart.
- You always wanted the fairytale but after your relationship nightmares, you are wondering if healthy love is full of compromises and no one is really happy, whether commitment is actually just a social conformity thing to raise children and whether monogamy is going out fashion - can you really have someone who only wants you or are you going to be cheated on again or do you choose a polyamory relationship so at least you’ve set your expectations in a way you won’t get hurt…. Yeah I went there.
I mean after all you’ve tried everything, the dating apps, listened to the podcasts from a male and female perspective, spoken to your single friends, spoken to your married friends and maybe even spoken to the odd therapist and counsellor too who have most probably made you out to be the problem so they can keep up those weekly sessions with you.
Did this hit home? Good - now before you swipe another match on hinge please read this before you decide to settle in love or be alone forever with your cats or dogs…. Or perhaps both.
Do you know why you’ve not met your person yet?
Part of the issue is because you’ve not found your truth yet, instead you’ve been listening to other people’s truths.
I mean was it really because they had an avoidant attachment style or was it a person that just wasn’t right for you?
Your friends say you are being too picky - is this true, or do you actually have a good understanding of what’s right for you?
That date who said they are ready for a relationship but you didn’t feel so sure that was true…. Did you listen to them or you?
Most dating advice gives you labels. I help you find the truth.
As you will probably tell by now, I have an absolutely no nonsense approach to love, which ultimately means that my clients don’t just end up in any old relationship, they end up in a relationship that is right for them and only them and the best part is… their relationships LAST.
The other reason you’ve not been successful in love is that you’ve not been taught what to see or pay attention to when it comes to dating and you’ve also never been shown how to date for something that’s real, healthy and long lasting and also how to date safely.
My career has led me not only to read people fast and accurately even from just a few photos on a dating app by using psychology and behavioural profiling, it’s also led me to understand dangerous personality types such as narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths - how to spot them fast, how to disarm them so you stay safe and also how to heal from them as that’s a whole other ball game that most people, coaches and therapists don’t understand.
I do something that most people in your life don’t do. I take my time to fully understand you, your life, your love life, your goals, your dreams, your pain - everything. So I can support you to meet someone who is compatible, someone that gets you and someone that fully appreciates and loves the person that you are.
The most magical part for me though isn’t actually seeing you in a relationship that’s healthy, loving and long lasting…. Even though that’s rather special.
It’s seeing who you become as a result of what’s kept you stuck in love fade away.
Because often what keeps you stuck in one area of your life, ends up changing your whole life in ways you can’t imagine - anyway I digress.
So why should you trust me with something as so special as your love life?
I've spent the last 8 years helping women stop repeating painful dating patterns with partners that can't give them what they need and instead meet someone that they are compatible with so they can build healthy, loving relationships that last.
I've worked with over 500 clients, completed more than 5,000 hours of coaching, been featured in Marie Claire, The Guardian and Cosmopolitan, and helped women who thought marriage, children and healthy love had passed them by.
Plus believe it or not, I have been where you are now… and possibly in a worse spot.
Even though I had read every relationship book going, been on coaching courses, used the attachment theory as my bible and followed a certain male dating coach’s every word because why wouldn’t you follow a male’s perspective on a female experience!! Gah!
Back in 2023 I was a relationship and dating coach who was leaving another 4 year toxic relationship and the shocking part, I didn’t realise how bad things were despite teaching this every day! This was my 3rd toxic relationship…. But this one I left with my life and a serious wake up call.
I remember sitting at my table with my feet on my chair and arms wrapped around my legs across from two plain clothed police officers who were asking me questions after I shared some details of what I felt was not such a big deal… until I heard myself say the words out loud and saw their well trained stoic faces show shock and concern.
I didn’t get justice and sadly 98% of women do not get justice in this situation.
But do you know where I ended up instead 3 years later?
I am writing this with my gorgeous baby girl in my arms, ring on my finger as I’m engaged to the most loving, funny and caring man who loves me, understands me and fully supports me and who is the greatest daddy you will ever see. I know he would do anything for us and I would do anything for him. We get married this year. Yes, this may seem fast but this is what happens when you choose each other with 100% confidence and commitment.
I am sharing this because I understand what it feels to be in a relationship where you are starved from love, betrayed and heartbroken - knowing deep down this isn’t right.
And I also understand what it feels to be fully loved by the right one and to love them back - do you know how I’d describe it? It’s like a fairytale.
Lily Walford
Relationship and Dating Coach
Before I met my fiancé - I knew that I had to get serious about my love life.
If I wasn’t going to get serious I was going to miss out on my chances of having a family and truth be told I was going to also probably going to become a hermit out in the sticks in Wales with a few more dogs…. I already had two by that point!
I also wanted a solid approach to meeting a partner. I wanted certainty.
If I was investing my life in a person, I wanted to have complete certainty that this was the right person and that I was safe to be in a relationship that I could give my all too where I wasn’t too much, too needy or too emotional for sharing my needs,
I wanted someone who would also invest themselves fully in me too.
This is what I created Loved UP! From. It’s from my own personal experience, my expertise in behavioural profiling, dangerous personality types including narcissists and healing and thriving after toxic relationships and guess that it’s also led to my clients meeting a partner where they can enjoy real, honest love that lasts.
There’s:
- Sam who went through narcissistic relationships is now married to her wife - I did get invited to their wedding too and got mentioned in their wedding speeches
- Victoria who met her husband and they got married in two months after we discovered an event in her life that caused a huge block to her love life despite working with every therapist, coach and counsellor.
- Jennie who went from not having a relationship for longer than 6 months who is now married with a baby boy.
- Tracy who was terrified of dating and time poor being a single mum to her daughters, who is getting married next month and has had a beautiful baby boy who will be their page boy/ring security at their wedding.
Just to name a few!
Here’s the difference from other dating programs out there.I wanted to create a program that was fully personalised to whoever joins it and I also wanted to create a program that focuses on what you need as you need it and I wanted something that was psychology based and research based - as I don’t know about you but I really dislike fluffy approaches that get people nowhere.
Here’s what I know you need to meet the right partner for you (and this is exactly what we deliver in Loved UP):
- A personalised dating strategy based on you, your past and the type of relationship that you desire.
- Coaching sessions that go deep and solve issues there and then! No laying there after a session emotionally exhausted with no plan. I pride myself for going deep, solving issues sometimes with a cry but mainly with laughter where you feel good, healed and in a better place for love.
- Compatibility Matrix this is what I’ve designed for clients so they are clear on who is right for them.
- We uncover what's kept you stuck and clear it for good. Everyone who joins this programme has a pattern that has caused them to repeatedly enter the wrong relationship.
- A dating profile makeover - we use your profile to filter out the ones that want you for a night and we attract the ones who are interested in making you a partner for life.
- 24/7 support, you have me whenever you need me no matter what. Bad date, good date, what to write back to people or if you are wondering if you should go on a date with Steve, send me his profile, a screenshot of his messages and I will share with you what I see so you can make up your mind.
- An understanding of what a healthy relationship is and what it definitely isn’t. We use my 4C’s relationship framework to do that with ease. It’s my proprietary framework for knowing instantly whether a relationship is healthy, compatible and built to last
- Plus I send you training that are personalised your needs.
Plus the support doesn’t end once you’ve met your person. I support you to nurture the right relationship with the right person - sometimes meeting the right one after being in unhealthy relationships can feel rather alien because they’ve never experienced a healthy relationship before. If and only if I feel that relationship is safe and compatible for you, I will support you to fully enjoy it. What I will not do is support you to enter an unhealthy relationship - I won’t tell you to leave it either but I will share and back up what I can see. Why? Because I want you to know I’m serious about you entering an emotionally healthy relationship.
Once you sign up, we have our kick off session which gives me all the information I need about you to plan out our 6 months.
So you may have a session that focuses on healing from a traumatic relationship that’s kept you stuck from getting out there or we might have a session on anything from your childhood or even a session on something happened at work - this was actually a surprising block for one of my clients that is now married!!
I also use some coaching sessions to do some hypnotherapy too which helps shift heavily emotional events, memories or elements that are impacting you which makes your journey to love easier.
But ultimately in six months time this is my aim for your journey…
- You are happy in a new healthy relationship
- You feel safe, secure and chosen
- You feel at peace with where you are in life and who you are
- You feel comfortable advocating for yourself and your needs
- You feel in control with creating the life that you desire
- You can see toxic personalities from a mile away and you know exactly what to do
- You are enjoying a relationship with someone that you can see a future with.
- You can see why you entered the wrong relationships and you are at peace with your past.
And sometimes some clients decide for a life overhaul as a result, they change careers, move countries, move house and ultimately create lives that feel more like them.
Finding Lily was one of the biggest blessings in my life!! With her help, I was able to understand past toxic relationships patterns and navigate through setting healthy boundaries and being the best version of myself in a relationship. Her help ultimately led me to finding my husband!
Lily is a brilliant dating and relationship coach. She helped me work out what I wanted and how to work on myself which helped me find my wife.
I loved working with Lily, she was so positive and ready to talk about anything. She helped me move through issues and things I needed to work on.
Right now, in 35 days I’m marrying the love of my life, on our 5 year anniversary. We have a beautiful blended family and I can thank Lily for being apart of our story.
We met on an app. We went on our first date, he proposed and we got married within 2 months! This was all possible because of Lily!!
I was struggling to meet the right person for a while and at one point had all the dating apps on, it felt like a full time job screening and vetting potential dates.
A while back, I had a very traumatic experience at work which was never resolved and never had counseling for so was subconsciously holding that in the whole time. Lily helped me to unblock those unresolved issues in a single powerful session and I felt the weight lifted immediately.
We learned about narcissist red flags in dating profiles which has helped me going forward not only in dating but also in work relationships what to look out for in people.
Our work together has helped to change my whole mindset and outlook in life for the better in what to look out for not just in love relationships but also friends and business relations.
If you’ve been on the fence debating about whether to get a dating coach or do the healing work I would highly recommend Lily as she has helped me so much with her guidance, wisdom, patience and understanding that our sessions have been life changing and i’m forever grateful to her for this new and exciting chapter in life that we’ve just started!
Who is this for you if
- You’ve hit that place of never wanting to be in a toxic relationship again
- You are ready to meet the right person for you
- You are empathic and emotionally intelligent
- You are willing to learn
- You are willing to be compassionately accountable for where you are and for changing your life
- You are coachable
- You are a loving person ready for a loving relationship
- You are single or recently out of a toxic relationship
- You are open to online dating with my specific guidance
Who is this not for
- If you aren’t coachable
- If you don’t take action
- If you want short term flings
- If you want to use dating as validation verses connection
- If you want to men or woman bash
- If you are in a relationship
If you are willing to commit to yourself and willing to commit to this programme, I know you can meet your person.
What’s included
- 26 x bi-weekly coaching calls One hour, just you and me, via Zoom. We go deep, we solve things, we move you forward. No leaving a session emotionally wrung out with no direction as every call ends with clarity and a plan. You keep the recording of every single session so you can come back to it whenever you need.
- 24/7 WhatsApp support This is the thing my clients say changes everything. Not just the calls but the fact that I'm there in between them too. Bad date? Message me. Good date and you don't want to overthink it? Message me. Not sure whether to reply to that message from someone you met on Hinge? Screenshot it and send it over. I will tell you exactly what I see. Day or night, I'm in your corner.
- Your personalised dating strategy Built entirely around you, your history, your story, what you need and the relationship you actually want. Nothing generic. Nothing borrowed from someone else's journey. This is yours.
- Your Compatibility Matrix A framework I've designed specifically for my clients so you are completely clear on who is right for you and most importantly why. No more second guessing. No more convincing yourself someone is good enough. You'll know instantly if that person is for you.
- Full dating profile makeover Photos, bio, messaging strategy, ok let’s just say all of it. We use your profile to do one job: filter out the people who want one night and attract the people who want a lifetime.
- The Love Vault A personally curated library of trainings, hypnotherapy sessions and journal prompts sent to you as and when you need them throughout our six months. Nothing generic, nothing you'll never open. Every single resource chosen specifically for where you are in your journey right now.
- Your 60-minute New Relationship Support call Most coaches disappear the moment you meet someone. I don't. When the right person comes along, we have a dedicated 60-minute session to support you stepping into that relationship with confidence, clarity and your eyes wide open. Because meeting the right person is one thing but letting yourself fully receive it is another.
- The Wingwoman backstop If by the end of our six months together you haven't yet met your person, you receive free access to The Wingwoman Collective for as long as you need it. My commitment to you doesn't have an expiry date.
Everything in Loved Up is personalised to you. This is six months of my complete and undivided attention on your love life and your life so you get to feel confident in love and never have to question yourself or enter into the wrong relationship again.
Investment
£4000 paid in full
or one of our payment plans
6 x monthly installments at £697
12 x monthly installments £357
Can you really afford the cost and wasted time of the wrong relationship? Or the feelings of your mind over analysing and questioning every message, every call and every date that’s stopping you from really enjoying the process?
Your time is now and you are in the right place, let’s do this together.
The right relationship isn't going to find you while you're waiting to feel ready. This is you deciding you're ready
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this really worth £4,000?
I'd ask you to think about it differently. What has staying stuck already cost you? The years on dating apps going nowhere, the emotional energy poured into the wrong relationships, the therapy bills, the heartbreak, the time. That has a cost too — it just doesn't come with an invoice.
Loved Up is a fully personalised six month programme where you have me completely in your corner — on calls, on WhatsApp, in your corner when Steve sends a weird message at 11pm and you don't know what to think. There is nothing generic about this. It is built entirely around you.
And because I never want money to be the thing standing between you and the love life you deserve, I've made this as accessible as I possibly can.
£4,000 paid in full
or 6 monthly installments of £697 or
12 monthly installments of £357
Plus we also include a meet the one guarantee too.
Your life-changing is worth finding a way.
How do the calls work?
We schedule a regular time that works for you, same time, same day, so it becomes a non-negotiable in your diary. Each call is one hour via Zoom and you receive the recording afterwards to keep and come back to whenever you need it. Life happens, so if you need to reschedule, just give me 24 hours notice and we'll find another time that week.
Do I need to already be on dating apps to start?
No. We start where you are. If you're not ready to date yet, that's completely fine. Infact that's often exactly where the most important work begins. By the time you are ready to get out there, you'll be doing it completely differently.
What if I've tried coaching before and it didn't work?
I hear this a lot. And I'd gently say it probably didn't work because it wasn't the right fit, or it was too generic, or it gave you insight without a real plan. Loved Up is not a course you sit and watch. It's not a group programme where you're one of many. It is entirely personalised to you, your history, your story and what you specifically need. That's a very different experience.
What if I invest and it doesn't work for me?
I back this programme completely, which is why if by the end of our six months together you haven't met your person yet, you get free access to The Wingwoman Collective for as long as you need it. I am not going anywhere and neither is my commitment to you finding the right relationship. I'm in this with you for the long haul.
What if I'm worried I've been single too long or my situation is too complicated?
Good! bring it all. I have worked with women who hadn't been in a relationship longer than six months their whole adult life. Women who left genuinely dangerous situations. Women who had completely given up. Those are exactly the women who are now married, now mothers, now living the life they thought had passed them by. There is no situation I haven't seen and no situation I don't believe can change.
What if I have children?
Some of my most successful clients have been single mums. Tracy came to me time-poor, terrified of dating and convinced the right person wasn't out there for someone in her situation. She is now marrying the love of her life and their beautiful blended family is complete.
Having children doesn't make finding the right relationship harder — it just means we factor your life, your schedule and what you need from a partner into everything we build together. Your dating strategy will be designed around your reality, not someone else's.
What if I'm gay, bisexual or queer?
You are absolutely welcome here and you will be fully supported.
Some of my most treasured client relationships have been with LGBTQ+ women. Sam — who you'll have read about on this page — didn't just become a client success story. She became a friend. Through the trans awareness training she delivers, she has also helped me become a more informed and supportive coach for my LGBTQ+ clients. I am continually learning and I take that seriously.
The work we do together — understanding what you want, reading people accurately, dating safely, building something real — is just as powerful and just as personalised regardless of who you love.
The only people I don't work with are those with he/him pronouns. Everyone else — you belong here.
Here's what I know for sure.
You are here reading this for a reason. And part of you already knows whether this is for you.
I was once the woman with the awful relationship history, sitting across from police officers wondering how I got there, wondering if real love was actually meant for me. Now I'm writing this with my baby girl in my arms and a good man by my side.
It happened for me. I have watched it happen for client after client after client.The only question that actually matters isn't "will this work?" It's "do I value myself enough to make this the moment everything changes?".
Whether we work together or not, you deserve to be a priority. I mean that.
Click below to book your free Loved Up application call — we'll spend 45 minutes together making sure Loved Up is the right fit for you, and if it is, we'll talk about getting started.
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